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2021 Recap

Whew. 2021. Honestly, this is going to be a long one and quite personal. Get ready. As most of you, I was looking forward to a fantastic 2021. After we experienced 2020, it had to be better, right? I was geared up and ready to plan gorgeous weddings for my amazing...

Honeymoon Planning

Hello friends! Whew, you've made it! After all of the planning building up to the wedding every precious couple needs an amazing honeymoon!  I have a few helpful hints when planning your honeymoon. While you get wrapped up in the wedding planning details, still take...

How To Plan For Rain

Hi friends!! Today I wanted to chat with you about something we actually don’t ever want to talk about, but really need to, which is how to plan for your wedding day rain plan. Here in Alabama you really never know what’s going to happen. If you chose an all outdoor...

Welcome to the KP blog! My name is Kendal and I’m so happy you’re here. It’s been my dream for quite some time to own a wedding planning company and now the time has finally arrived! I am certain that this will be the best journey in life and I’m so excited to finally show you what we’ve been working on for the past few months! Take a look around, love. I can’t wait to meet you!

January 10, 2022

Whew. 2021. Honestly, this is going to be a long one and quite personal. Get ready. As most of you, I was looking forward to a fantastic 2021. After we experienced 2020, it had to be better, right? I was geared up and ready to plan gorgeous weddings for my amazing couples.  I had goals […]

Whew. 2021. Honestly, this is going to be a long one and quite personal. Get ready.

As most of you, I was looking forward to a fantastic 2021. After we experienced 2020, it had to be better, right? I was geared up and ready to plan gorgeous weddings for my amazing couples.  I had goals for my personal life (start a family), goals for business (expand my team and create new systems for my clients), and growth as a person for my friends and family. Well, to say the least, that didn’t happen.

Unfortunately I was faced with one of the hardest decisions of my life. I was struggling in my marriage, which I know people often do, and I thought nearly everyday, “I can do this. Marriage is just hard. We’ll get through this” but I tried so hard for so long and it simply wasn’t enough. Honestly, it was hard on both of us. After countless counseling sessions, books read, journaling, etc. I knew I gave what I could give but it wasn’t enough to repair our brokenness. People say God can repair anything, He can fix a broken marriage. And He can, I’ve seen it. However, the consistency of having to rebuild trust was unbearable. I cried, I cried and I cried. I was so tired of crying. It was the hardest decision of my life because it didn’t just include me, it was also affecting someone else’s life.

I was so alone, I kept SO much to myself. I didn’t even tell my mom, my sister or my best friends. Nobody knew the struggles I was dealing with, I can’t explain how alone I was. I thought to myself that would be far easier to work on this together and not include the many opinions from family and friends…but wow. That was the most unhealthy choice I could have made.

After a year full of challenges I never thought I’d experience due to the global pandemic, I didn’t want to add more stress of a failed marriage. But when is a good time for added stress? We can’t plan these things in advance. Wouldn’t it be cool if God could give us a timeline of our life? “Okay Kendal, in 2017 you’re going to get married, start a business, buy a home, and get 2 dogs. BUT in 2021, you’re going to get divorced. So, prepare your finances, life-style, and heart for this.” That would have been cool! But, life doesn’t work like that. I had to process the heartache, and the many many changes that I faced. Even silly things like changing your last name. *Eye Roll*, Social Security is STILL closed due to Covid (they say), so….I had to mail in my paperwork and Driver’s License only to get lost in the mail. Oh well, my to-do list has gone from 115 items to about 7 now. So, I’m making it!!

I also had to face challenges in my business. Sadly, it was so hard being happy for my clients, I was so unhappy. I remember crying on my way to my car after meetings with my precious clients, knowing I was so sad, I was so tired, I was so alone. How could I look at these brides and tell them about my sadness? They are SO excited. They couldn’t wait to marry the love of their life, meanwhile I was ending my marriage. I felt as though I didn’t serve my clients well. The grace that my 2021 and 2022 clients have given me is UNREAL. When I say I have the best clients, I truly mean it. So thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

All of this to say, I never thought I could learn so incredibly much about myself. My mom, Toni, & my counselor, Tina, (who I wish I could bring home with me in case I have a meltdown at 2am) have opened my eyes to who I really am. Which is honestly a badass. Let’s get out of bed, face this decision and get stuff done. It was totally acceptable to take time to process and grieve my marriage, it was healthy to fully go through the process, but I had to choose myself and choose happiness or I would have been stuck in that funk forever. It took me about 2 months to remind myself that I was going to be ok.  I still had my moments, it was the constant reminder of memories we made and the routines we had that I found challenging to get used to alone. So, I made new routines, alone and with my family and my friends. And guess what? I’m surviving and thriving 😉

After the most challenging year of life, I am so thankful for it. I have learned who I am, figured out I could be independent, and I have met an amazing and incredibly patient man, Daniel, who has opened my eyes to so many new joys in life.  Our relationship is so refreshing and he has helped me realize I can trust and love fully again.

As a wedding planner, I want to assure you I still love marriage. Marriage creates a safe relationship where you can authentically be yourself, build intimacy, and a deep connection. I look forward to the day I can become a bride to my future husband.

I hope & pray that 2022 is MY year.

Xo,

Kendal

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November 29, 2021

Hello friends! Whew, you’ve made it! After all of the planning building up to the wedding every precious couple needs an amazing honeymoon!  I have a few helpful hints when planning your honeymoon. While you get wrapped up in the wedding planning details, still take time to do your research for honeymoon destination spots. First, […]

Hello friends!

Whew, you’ve made it! After all of the planning building up to the wedding every precious couple needs an amazing honeymoon! 

I have a few helpful hints when planning your honeymoon. While you get wrapped up in the wedding planning details, still take time to do your research for honeymoon destination spots. First, find your ideal location. Whether you’re traveling to the mountains to go skiing or relaxing on a tropical island, find the place that will be the best for you and your new hubby. After finding the destination, search for a few options of hotels or resorts. I of course do suggest working with a travel agent if you are traveling out of the country. Travel agents give you the reassurance that everything is taken care of for you before heading out for your honeymoon!

When researching hotels or resorts, look at their options for excursions, dining, and amenities. I suggest to pick a place that offers a few things for you to do! After the wedding, you are just looking for the perfect place to simply relax. When hotels and resorts offer on-sight dining and activities, it makes the honeymoon much more relaxing. 

Another suggestion is DO NOT book your plane to leave earlier than 8:00am the day after your wedding. If possible, wait until Monday to catch your flight. I promise it is so nice to not have to rush to the airport immediately after an exhausting wedding day. 

 

Open Post!

March 24, 2021

Hi friends!! Today I wanted to chat with you about something we actually don’t ever want to talk about, but really need to, which is how to plan for your wedding day rain plan. Here in Alabama you really never know what’s going to happen. If you chose an all outdoor wedding venue, it’s great […]

Hi friends!! Today I wanted to chat with you about something we actually don’t ever want to talk about, but really need to, which is how to plan for your wedding day rain plan. Here in Alabama you really never know what’s going to happen. If you chose an all outdoor wedding venue, it’s great to have a just-as-perfect rain plan. Although you don’t hope for it to rain, it’s great to plan ahead. 

When choosing a wedding venue, it’s important to make sure there is an alternative option in the case of rain. Review your options, whether it’s an indoor facility or needing to tent the area, try to decide on what option will be best for your venue, guest count and budget. After securing your venue, it’s great to go ahead and book those rain plan options. I know it’s tough to book the vendors or items ONLY if it rains, however I promise it will give you some peace of mind.

My suggestion is to get your rain plan completely planned and booked at least 6 months out from your wedding day. Unfortunately if you wait to the last minute, it is often hard to find an alternative option because tents or other indoor facilities may have been booked before you, especially if there is a high chance of rain in the forecast.

Open Post!

March 17, 2021

  Key information to understand: Their style If they emcee and make announcements + what is their style Number of hours of service + charge for overtime Requirement for breaks Stage requirements Greenroom requirements Meal and alcohol requirements Ability to provide music / amp / mics for ceremony and cocktail hour Do they provide a […]

 

Key information to understand:

  • Their style
  • If they emcee and make announcements + what is their style
  • Number of hours of service + charge for overtime
  • Requirement for breaks
  • Stage requirements
  • Greenroom requirements
  • Meal and alcohol requirements
  • Ability to provide music / amp / mics for ceremony and cocktail hour
  • Do they provide a lapel mic for the officiant?
  • Do they provide a handheld/wireless mic for toasts?
  • Do they provide a mic stand and mic for readers or soloists?
  • If they have back-up equipment in case any fails
  • If they have lighting options

Additional questions to ask:

  • How do you motivate the crowd if they aren’t dancing?
  • What is your back up plan if band members get sick or have an emergency?
  • Will we meet again before the wedding?
  • Can we visit you at a performance?
  • How involved can we be in selecting the music for our day?
  • When do we need to finalize those selections?
  • Do you take requests from guests?
  • Can we submit a “do not play” list?
  • What will you wear?
  • Do you play recorded music during breaks?
  • Do you set up a sign or banner with your table?
  • Are you able to learn songs, and is there a cost?
  • Are my VIP songs (first dance, father/daughter dance, mother/son dance) in your current repertoire? If not, can you play them recorded?

Open Post!

February 20, 2021

Hey friends! Today on the blog is beautiful Lydia & Conner’s wedding at the Barn At Shady Lane. Oh how I love these two!! Lydia was one precious “Covid Bride”, she stayed calm but cautious during her wedding planning journey and I’m so happy that everything went off without a hitch.  Lydia and Conner were […]

Hey friends! Today on the blog is beautiful Lydia & Conner’s wedding at the Barn At Shady Lane. Oh how I love these two!! Lydia was one precious “Covid Bride”, she stayed calm but cautious during her wedding planning journey and I’m so happy that everything went off without a hitch. 

Lydia and Conner were surrounded by their sweet friends and family all day. Their love for each other was priceless and being a part of their wedding day was so fulfilling. After a few curveballs thrown at Lydia & Conner during their engagement, it was one perfect day!

The Dream Team

wedding planner: Kendal Perry Planning photographer: Allison Naylor Photography | venue: The Barn at Shady Lane | florals: Vera Flora | cake: Magic Muffins | caterer: The Happy Catering Company | officiant: Another Happy Couple | wedding dress: Lea-Ann Belter Sofia via Ivory & Birch Bridal | band: The Groove Factor | photo booth: Pic Your Party Photo Booth | videography: Westerly Way Photography 

Open Post!

February 16, 2021

Hello again & welcome to the KP Blog! Today I want to chat with you about the pros & cons of a first look on wedding day. I know every couple is different and sees their wedding day going a certain way. I love the uniqueness of each couple and how their personalities share on […]

Hello again & welcome to the KP Blog! Today I want to chat with you about the pros & cons of a first look on wedding day. I know every couple is different and sees their wedding day going a certain way. I love the uniqueness of each couple and how their personalities share on wedding days. 

So, first things first, what is a first look? It’s simply the moment the bride & groom see each other for the first time on wedding before the ceremony. It’s a very intimate and emotional moment, as it’s just the two of them (plus photographers of course!) where they get to take a few minutes and take it all in that they are about to become husband and wife. 

*PROS*

By seeing your soon-to-be hubby/wifey before the ceremony simply calms your nerves. Your wedding day is full of emotions and it’s so sweet to simply see your person and some of those nerves will disappear. 

Next up, it helps with the timing of the wedding day. By seeing your fiance before the ceremony, you get to take beautiful photos together and with your wedding party and family all before the ceremony. That means you get to go to the party sooner! 

Always remember, a first look will never spoil the ceremony. The moment a bride walks down the aisle is a moment like no other. Seeing your fiance as the doors open for you will still give you chills and the sweetest emotions. 

**CONS**

You break “tradition” by having a first look. Some couples are very traditional and want to keep things the old fashioned way, which is so sweet. By seeing your fiance before the ceremony, it takes away that sense of tradition. 

It’s a little risky. By having a wedding planner with you on wedding day, it surely helps not accidentally running into your fiance on your way to the bathroom. If you are all getting ready at the same location and not seeing eachother, it can be a little risky as you will have to have someone on watch to make sure you and your fiance don’t leave your room at the same time and accidentally see eachother.

You might not get all the photos you want. After the ceremony, you will have couple photos, family photos and wedding party photos. Those are ALOT of photos to fit into approximately an hour before you head over to the reception. Often those photos are rushed, which always makes me so sad because the bride & groom don’t get exactly what they wanted. 

My personal preference – I love a sweet First Look. If I can, I will always try to explain to the couple why a first look is so important. Of course it helps the day run smoother, but I promise you will look back at those photos to see your reaction over and over again. It’s such a private and emotional moment to share with just you two. It’s a moment like no other!

 

 

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Welcome to the KP blog! My name is Kendal and I’m so happy you’re here. It’s been my dream for quite some time to own a wedding planning company and now the time has finally arrived! I am certain that this will be the best journey in life and I’m so excited to finally show you what we’ve been working on for the past few months! Take a look around, love. I can’t wait to meet you!

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